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AIDS/LifeCycle: Day 1
Jun 5th
As you all may know Alfie, Shawnito and I are riding our bikes from San Francisco to Los Angeles with the AIDS/LifeCycle. We each raised over $3000 for the San Francisco AIDS Foundation. Today is day 1 of the ride. [If I can I will update each post after we complete each day to let you know how we did]
Today we are traveling from San Francisco to Santa Cruz (82.5 miles)
Not-So-Deep Conversations
May 20th
Picture it: At Toad Hall last night with Gary Jr….
Gary Jr.: Ew someone farted by us
Me: No… someone took a shit in the bathroom, and you know who takes shits in bars don’t you?
Gary Jr.: Benutty?
Me: Um no…. Lesbians.
Stereotypes & San Francisco: Building a Reality TV Franchise
Apr 8th
The other day, in my post “So Delicious! A-Look at The A-List: New York,” I very thinly discussed the role of stereotypes in television, a relationship I see as entirely necessary for any program, specifically within the scope of reality, to work. In this companion-post, I want to flesh that out a little more while addressing my belief as to why a Housewives or A-List show will probably never work in San Francisco.
One of the reasons why reality franchises like Real Housewives, Jersey Shore, and Real World are so successful is that they use stereotypes as a foundation and build upon and exploit them in depth. Jersey Shore is a prime example of TV capitalizing on a stereotype and needs no explanation, but consider the Real Housewives and the casts and cities it has branched out into as they relate to the stereotypes exaggerated in each variation: New York – sophistication, Orange County – blonde/plastic surgery, Atlanta – black/music, New Jersey – Italian/family, DC – politics, Beverly Hills – fame/wealth, and Miami – Latin/food — each acutely depicts what an audience expects and believes to be true about the people of each city. Whether or not such a stereotype defines that city is irrelevant because the purpose of the franchise is not to depict the general population of the city, but rather to exploit and entertain our fancies of the different types of women in our country through these stereotypes that are relative to the places we believe them to come from most often.
Look, no television show is ever going to succeed if the audience can’t enter into it with some foreknowledge of the characters or storyline. Lost, one of the most abstract shows in recent history, began with the very easy storyline of ‘plane crashes on deserted island’ — a common plot that any viewer could use as an entrance point to the series. From there, once it solidified its core audience, it was able to branch out into the more fantastical, unfamiliar plot archs it became known for. With reality TV the plot isn’t readily accessible from the beginning, so the only bridge between the audience and the show available, at least from the outset, is achieved through stereotypical characters. The familiarity draws the viewer in and after justifying his/her preconceptions of the characters through cliche dialogue, bitch fests, and cat fights the series can start to embrace other aspects of the characters (even if they often don’t).
For The A-List: New York, the obvious stereotype is fashionable, materialistic gay men, but because it is the only arm of the series (potential franchise?) the impression is that the image portrayed is a stereotype of the entire gay community. The clue that this isn’t the desired impression though is in the very name of the show. By calling it the New York variation of The A-List the producers are doing two things: 1) anticipating the backlash of the gay media criticizing the stereotype as representative of the culture as a whole, and 2) setting up potential spin-offs in other cities (i.e. The A-List: Los Angeles, The A-List: Miami). But in order for my stereotype rule to work in #2, The A-List would have to pull from different niches of the gay community specific to different cities, just as Real Housewives does for women.
There is no denying that the gay community has a ton of subcultures within the larger umbrella of LGBT, and one might even argue that these are more easily definable than the stereotypes of the straight community. The problem though is whether or not these subcultures are relative to the cities where potential spin-offs might take place. Is it predetermined enough to say LA = entertainment gays and Miami = beach/body gays? What then are Atlanta, Chicago, and Dallas? What cities are defined by daddy gays, sporty gays, or drag gays? I’m not convinced the stereotype/city model works as easily within the gay community. It wouldn’t make sense to an audience for the show to pick out a niche in the gay community and arbitrarily showcase it from any given city — there has to be a believable (again, based on stereotyping) correlation between cast and city for it to work, and I’m just not convinced there is.
I’m also not sure the model, in the context of Real Housewives or A-List, works for the city of San Francisco. What is the stereotype of a San Francisco citizen? Apparently we’re uber-liberal. Apparently we’re pretty casual. Do we hike more often? Are we environmentalist vegetarians? And are we these things more than the dwellers of any other city? And even if we are one of those stereotypes, are any of them interesting enough to base a reality series on?
Generally speaking, I don’t think the city of San Francisco (in all of its actual glory) is portrayed very well in the media. The most recent example being the Giants who, in their journey to become baseball’s 2010 champions, were, despite their playoff dominance, always deemed the underdog and called “misfits.” Yet, in a way, San Francisco is a city of misfits, isn’t it. Perhaps the city isn’t depicted positively because it is so undefinable. The city is home to many stereotypes, if not all of them!, and remains defined by its lack of definition, diversity and international attractiveness. Creating a reality show based on inhabitants of this city would prove difficult because there is no one stereotype that distinguishes the city from another, leaving no stereotyping foundation as an entrance for the audience.
Obviously I’m just hypothesizing here from my own observations, so I’m curious to know what other people think. Does reality TV only work when playing up stereotypes? If so, is that offensive? And what about San Francisco, could it be used as the hub of one of the Housewives or A-List shows, gay or otherwise?
Nick’s Greatest Moments: The False Teeth Incident
Jan 19th
I used to borrow my parents car all the time back in the day because I never had enough money to get my own. My parents didn’t really want me to leave the greater Sacramento area with the car though. I guess they thought that anything outside of Sacramento was more dangerous of something… who knows. Obviously that didn’t stop me from going anywhere I wanted. I went to Tahoe, Santa Cruz, Napa, and of course San Francisco all the time.
One particular day my friend Vanessa and I decided we wanted to go to San Francisco to go shopping on Haight Street, and to get lunch. By the way… this was before I realized how much I hated Haight Street. Anyways, it took us about 90 minutes to get there, and after about another 15 minutes we finally found parking next to the panhandle. We got about a block away from where we parked when my mom called.
- Me: Hello
- Mom: Nick?… it’s your mom.
She always informs that it is her on the phone even though I obviously recognized the phone number.
- Me: Hey… what’s up?
- Mom: Can you come back home. Your dad left his false teeth in the glove box, and he can’t eat his lunch without them.
What!? First of all… who leaves their false teeth in a car? Secondly, I’m gonna have to lie my ass off… if she knew I was in San Francisco I wouldn’t be able to use the car for a while.
- Me: Um yea… but I’m in Roseville (which is like 25 minutes from where I lived), and we were just walking in to eat… so does he need them like now or can I eat first?
- Mom: Oh. It’s ok. Stay and eat.
- Me: Ok… well I can be back home in like an hour.
- Mom: Ok.. see you soon.
Fucking hell! I explained the situation to Vanessa, and we headed back to the car and started driving back to Sacramento. It took us like 80 minutes to get back, but we successfully delivered the false teeth to my dad.
Talk about ruining the day. Nope not for us… we got back in the car, and headed right back to San Francisco for shopping and dinner! I kinda miss days like that.
And that… is one of Nick’s Greatest Moments.
You Know What I Hate?
Nov 11th
I hate disgusting people who act and smell like trash! On Monday I was on the 38L-Geary Limited bus heading to work. I was sitting near the back of the bus when this nasty guy gets on thru the back door… he didn’t pay to get on either. He stood right near me, and he smelled so fucking disgusting! It was like a mixture of ashtray and sweaty Benutty butt crack. A lot of people moved away, but since I was sitting and I knew he’d probably get off at the Tenderloin stop I stayed put.
After a minute or two he started clearing his throat, but not like a normal person… like seriously hardcore putting everything he’s got into it. We start pulling up to the Tenderloin stop, and he begins to move toward the door, but then he stops… starts clearing his throat again, and then turns his head and spits the biggest most disgusting Jell-O looking green mucus wad that I have ever seen on to the floor of the bus. Everyone in the back of the bus made a “uughghhhggghhghghgg” sound, and the fool gets off the bus. You could tell that some people really wanted to puke after seeing it, but it was like a car accident… you couldn’t take your eyes off it.
And then just when you thought it could not get any worse than it already had, some young thug kids jump on the bus at Powell Street and one of them steps in it and slips a little smearing it all over the floor. Blahhhh… Riding public transit is hard sometimes.
An Amazing Amazing Race, or Fall of an Empire!
Jul 19th
OMG. I’m still in bed because I can’t move. Two days later. Nick’s Amazing Race was truly amazing. He pulled it off way better than I thought the little nugget could and I’m so proud of him. Secretly I think he only wanted to do it so that Gary Jr. and I would be forced to exercise. I’m also proud of my teammate, Alfie, for putting up with my slow-out-of-shape ass!
We talked hella shit going into the race and, well, karma bit Team So Hairy It’s Scary in the ass. No, actually, karma ate out our entire ass. We made all the wrong moves, but were so sure of ourselves the entire time! HA! As evidence, please enjoy a compilation of our best worst decisions along the race. And sorry in advance to all the people we hated on along the race.
Every Amazing Race needs the d-bag team of two young guys, right? Glad we could be ‘em.
Amazing Race Registration
May 4th
You may now officially register to be in the Amazing Race in San Francisco on 07/17/10.
To download the rules and registration info please click below.
Amazing Race Registration
Registration must be complete by 06/01/10 to race.
The Amazing Race – San Francisco
Mar 27th
Question of the Week (01/30 – 02/05)
Feb 1st
Q: If you had to go back in time, and change one thing that you did in your life what would it be?
There are two decisions I’ve made in my life that if I had to I would make differently — and since both of them have to do with college I think it’s ok that I mention both.
The first was my decision as a junior in high school to apply to only a handful of colleges (Stanford, St. Mary’s, Columbia and Sac State). For whatever reason I thought I’d be going to the best (Stanford & Columbia) or the worst (Sac State) or something completely off the wall (St. Mary’s). I got rejected from Stanford, filled out but never sent my application to Columbia, and got into the other two. But instead of going to either of them I decided I wasn’t ready and took the community college route (which, ironically, turned out to be one of the best decisions of my life). But in hindsight I think I would have benefited from applying to a larger pool of schools and having gone to one of them.
The second was my decision after I graduated from Berkeley to move back to Sacramento for a year rather than move straight to San Francisco. In that year I spent in Sac I lost a lot of time with the friendships and connections I had gained while in college and those relationships have since suffered because of that lost time. Granted, being back in Sacramento allowed me to spend much missed time with my family and friends there and gave me more drive to move back to the Bay.
I think the important thing I’ve learned about both of those things is that I was afraid of taking risks. In both cases I took the easy & familiar route, but would have been better off making the harder decisions to move away from home earlier and to have not returned back so quickly instead of continuing on my individual journey. But these are lessons I’ve now learned and I can’t regret that!
I am very happy with my life right now and had either of those decisions been made differently I can’t say that I’d be exactly where I am today, and that would be far more regrettable than having made either of those decisions. I truly believe that people should be proud of their accomplishments and excited about the lessons they learn from their mistakes. There is no point dwelling in the past and wishing you made different choices. I say “Fuck it, grab a knife today and kill a pig or cow tomorrow!”
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